We have someone in our office who is like this and who has gotten this sort of feedback before. It’s a problem, regardless of the fact that he’s a man. In fact, because of some other personality aspects, him communicating this way as a man comes across as more offensive to those of us in the office who are not men. I frequently have to stop myself from thinking, “This sexist son of a …” and remind myself that his communication style comes across as treating everyone like a serf to be given orders, not just us wimminfolk.
Response from exec producer Shonda Rhimes: “Brooke Smith was obviously not fired for playing a lesbian. Clearly it’s not an issue as we have a lesbian character on the show – Calliope Torres. Sara Ramirez is an incredible comedic and dramatic actress and we wanted to be able to play up her magic. Unfortunately, we did not find that the magic and chemistry with Brooke’s character would sustain in the long run. The impact of the Callie/Erica relationship will be felt and played out in a story for Callie. I believe it belittles the relationship to simply replace Erica with ‘another lesbian.’ If you’ll remember, Cristina mourned the loss of Burke for a full season.”